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Something I’ve noticed in my own life (and perhaps you’ve noticed in yours) is that sometimes (perhaps often), we tend to look at what we don’t have and fail to appreciate what we do have.

I live in a fairly affluent area. Within minutes of our home, there are neighborhoods with multi-million dollar homes. As a result, my wife and I sometimes jokingly refer to our neighborhood as the “slums,” though by any objective measure, we are extremely fortunate. Nevertheless, at times we’ve found ourselves thinking “Gee, Mr. So-and-so drives a new BMW,” or “The Smiths are going to Europe again,” and then it’s hard not to think “Why not us?”

Ironically, others are probably looking at us and having similar thoughts.

Sadly, I think it’s human nature to focus on what we don’t have and throw ourselves a pity party, than to be appreciative for what we have. Then, out of the blue, you have an experience that shoves reality back in your face. (And no, I’m not talking about the kind of “reality” you see on Survivor—though admittedly I’m a little embarrassed to admit I am a closet Survivor fan.)

One such experience happened to me a couple of months back. A friend—a former co-worker—had just returned from volunteering at a refugee camp in Africa. Shockingly, this particular camp has more than 2 million inhabitants. The stories she told made the day-to-day “issues” we face seem so shallow. She conveyed stories of “homes” of 6-10 children all under the age of 12 living together with no parental supervision because the parents had died of disease. She told stories of severe hunger and starvation despite the fact that many of the world’s relief organizations are there trying to lend a hand. I could go on and on, but the point is this: while I think most of us want to believe that the worst suffering happened in the past, there are countless instances of suffering around the world today, and yet we don’t hear about it. Part of the reason we don’t hear about it is that it’s not reported—or at least not reported very often in the mainstream media. And admittedly, part of the reason is that we’re all too “busy” to take the time to learn what’s going on. Either way, “out of sight” generally equals “out of mind.”

Neither you nor I is going to be able to solve those issues alone. After all, what can we do compared to the efforts of the world’s largest relief organizations? But, we can do something. It may sound naïve or corny, but one life saved makes a difference. Please adopt the current LifeTango Challenge (Contribute To American Idol Gives Back Or A Similar Cause) and do something to build awareness or provide funding, however great or small, to help improve the situation, whether it be for one person or many.

I just found out that Nigel Lythogoe was the mastermind behind the “Idol Gives Back” progam.  The american idol crew is in a rush to finish to finish the video editing and preparing for the huge show.  There will be tons of famous performers coming together to help raise awareness and money for the less fortunate.

http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/showtracker/2008/04/nigel-lythgoe-s.html

We should all make an effort to give back to American Idol! 

Sign Up and take on our challenge to donate to American Idol this Year!!!

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-Chris

TV Guid announces American Idol is down to the final 8 and starting tomorrow we can start giving back to and helping the Americal Idol Gives Back program.  Let’s all help out and give up a coffee a day.  We can start small and work our way up!

http://www.tvguide.com/tvshows/american-idol/100036

 Sign Up and take on our challenge to donate to American Idol

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-Chris

Some of you may have noticed a number of goals that have been created recently that start out “I am loving …”  as in “I am loving traveling Europe and Africa” or “I am loving being a generous and thankful person.” These goals provide a great example for all of us who really want to accomplish something (and have a great time in the process).

Why is this such a great model for goals? First, these goals focus on the positive. Ultra-positive, in fact.  Not just “I enjoy …” or “I have achieved …” but rather “I am LOVING …”  Other potential powerful phrases could be

• “I am ecstatic to be …”
• “I am overjoyed to …”
• “I feel on top of the world …”

Each of these phrases conveys not only a sense of accomplishment, but sets a powerful, positive tone related to the goals people want to accomplish.

Next, each put the goal in the present tense. This is a positive physchological tool. If you focus too much on a goal as something that is always in your future, you may come to associate your goal with something you can never reach (because technically the future is always, well, in the future). Phrasing your goals in the present helps you begin to associate your goals with something you can accomplish now.

That said, another powerful tactic when setting goals is to specify a target date.  So how do you set a target date and yet still talk about your goals in the present tense? One idea is to phrase a goal as follows (or something like it): “On April 12, 2008, I am loving having saved $2,000 for a down payment on a car” or whatever your date and your goal might be.

Make it a great day!

Brent
LifeTango.com Chief Dream Officer

My family and I recently watched Akeelah and the Bee–a story about an inner-city girl who has a gift for spelling who makes it to the National Spelling Bee.  Not only could our family relate in our own small way (my wife’s youngest brother made it to the National Spelling Bee a couple years back), but it was entertaining.  My only gripe was that, from the best I can tell, it’s totally fictional.  I recognize that many movies that are “based on a true story” sometimes only slightly follow a true story, but at least there’s some element of truth to them.  (I had the same gripe about Goal-The Dream Begins–good story, but anyone can WRITE an inspirational story.  To me, it’s more inspiring if someone LIVED the story.)

Regardless, however, after the movie, my kids were going around asking for us to give them words to spell and one of my daughters actually wanted to read the dictionary.  And it struck me that movies can have an inspirational impact on our kids.  So my wife and I thought it would be a good idea to periodically watch inspirational movies–ideally based on true stories, but that isn’t mandatory–with our kids.

So I thought it would be a good idea to start a list of inspirational movies and ask for your help in building the list.  Here are a few that I can think of off the top of my head.  Please feel free to comment to add more to the list.

Cool Runnings (one of our family’s favorites)
Rudy
Miracle
Invincible
Akeelah and the Bee
Goal–The Dream Begins
Rocky I, II, III, and IV (I refuse to consider V and the jury is out on Rocky Balboa–at least in my opinion)

Let me know what others you feel are inspirational.

Brent

Last January, an estimated 45 million Americans, or approximately one in five adults, set an average of three New Year’s Resolutions each, according to a nationwide phone survey that we conducted here at LifeTango.com in December.

Battle of the “Bulge” and “Budget” Top the List

Of those setting resolutions, nearly three in four set a resolution related to diet, weight loss, or exercise.

The second most common resolutions were financial and budget-related.  Roughly two in five Americans who set resolutions hoped to control their spending or improve their financial situation.

Friends, Internet Offer Support

In the study, we found that people who set resolutions with another person were 40 percent more likely to accomplish those resolutions. As a result, we recommend finding a friend or family member who will work on a resolution with you.  LifeTango enables you to create a resolution and then invite a friend or family member to join you.  Then you can work on the resolution together.

Another suggestion is to write down your resolutions or record them on a computer or the internet.  Though only one in four people setting resolutions recorded them, those that did were 25 percent more likely to accomplish their goals.

“I started using LifeTango to work on a goal with my sister,” says Lovina Roundy of Monterey, Cal.  “But seeing some of the goals that others posted to the site made me realize I needed to adjust my life to match my priorities to take my daughter to the park more often and work on personal interests. For me, this is just the beginning.”

For Roundy and millions of other Americans, the new year dawns with the hope and resolve for a better, more fulfilling life in 2007.

The latest (and theoretically last) installment in the Rocky saga opens today. In a recent interview, Sylvester Stallone indicated that, in part, he wanted to make this film as an apology for Rocky V. (Personally, I’d be willing to get my money back, with 16 years interest at credit card rates, of course.) But whether this film is a winner or a flop, I owe the inspiration for today’s post to the Italian Stallion.

Recently, I re-watched Rocky IV and was surprised to catch a nugget of wisdom. Before leaving for Russia, Rocky is talking with his son and says:

“Going one more round when you don’t think you can, that’s what makes all the difference in your life.”

Unfortunately, life occasionally knocks us to the ground.  Whether it be illness, divorce, loss of employment, loss of friendship, or countless other things large or small, sadness and hurt come into our lives. But when we get back up and face our challenges, so often, we come out stronger and wiser. My encouragement to you today would be–go farther than you think you can; go one more round. In most instances (I’d even be willing to bet that in ALL instances), you’ll likely find hidden reserves of strength that you didn’t know you had.

And as someone who grew up in the Rocky era, kneeling at the side of my bed after seeing Rocky II and punching my mattress while pretending that I was fighting Apollo Creed, here’s to hoping that Rocky Balboa wins–not in the movie (that’s a foregone conclusion anyway, right?), but at the box office. Stallone’s taking a risk making this film, and I prefer to cheer for the risk-takers out there (after all, I hope they’re cheering for me as well).